A mean step-father once, out-ofthe-blue, pinched a plug out of my bicep, prompting an angry “ouwee, what did you do that for?” response. His answer was, “because you hit me,” to which I yelped, “I did not!” His counter, “but you thought about it didn’t you,” was both a justification for his hurtful action as well as a twisted, reason for his pre-emptive behavior.
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